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You might think online dating would create some much-needed fairness" between the sexes. In the domain of hetero courtship, convention still reigns supreme. The Internet could be the great democratizer, the superb playing field-leveler. After all, we each have only the 500-word text boxes and crappy jpegs and adroit (not so intelligent) user names to show for ourselves. Anyone can message anyone about anything. Perhaps in this environment where we're safely sequestered behind displays, we can get past a number of the lingering gender-based rules" that dominate the How to Catch a Man" playbooks of yore. Maybe instead we can learn to treat each other as equal players of a very silly game that we all secretly take quite seriously. Wouldn't that be nice?
But it appears quite clear to me that we are not there yet. I am partially to blame, and you also probably are too. I am a feminist, sex-positive 21st century lady whose photographs contain me posing in a Rosie the Riveter Halloween costume. I write about gender on the Internet for crying out loud! But every day, when I log into the dating site of my choice, I play the passive role, the receiver of attention, the awaiter of messages. I go to my inbox and see who needs to speak to me and then I choose to whom I Will respond. Sometimes I send a thanks but no thanks" to especially pleasant messages, but normally I am so overwhelmed by the brand new things to read and the new picks in front of me that I blow off those nice guys also. Essentially, I behave like an entitled jerk who is able to pull puppet strings and make OkCupid dance for me however I please.
This isn't the behaviour I'd expect of a feminist, sex-positive 21st century woman. It is not behavior I'm particularly proud of either. Why do not I write messages first? Why do not I reach out to the guys with the comical handles and good taste in books, the ones who post images with goofy faces and like tacos almost as much as I enjoy tacos? Why do I not reply politely to each message, even the ones I am not interested in? Why do I alternate between playing the damsel and the playing the demanding entitled ahole? Because it's only so easy.
Ugh. I am embarrassed to have written that. I wish the evidence pointed to something else, something egalitarian and modern, but when I get real with my own online dating M.., it's the truth. I have sent messages to men before, certainly, but the ratio is small. Ten to one? Twenty to one? Once in a blue moon? I do not have to, and so I don't make myself go through the scary exercise of asking for consideration and maybe being rejected or dismissed. Why would I put myself through the rollercoaster of the drafting, the editing, the sending, the waiting, the hoping, the checking, and the sighing in disappointment when the fact of my sex (and let's be real; that is really all it's) means the attention comes to me? This isn't how I want this work, but I condone it with my inaction.
Which now brings us to alternative/path #3 - online dating. Some consider this the last frontier before calling it quits on the dating scene, while others chant it upward as the Holy Grail for finding the love which makes your groin tremble. Okay, Holy Grail is a ginormous stretch, however there are those in the dating world that swear that online dating gives them the best variety of possibilities, while affording them anonymity and having the ability to move at a pace they ascertain rather than being blindsided at a dinner party with the tried and oh so fake, "I'm so glad you are both here. I have been dying to introduce the two of you!" Yeah right! That dinner party, happenstance meeting, was orchestrated so well it deserves a Tony Award. Any who...shall we move on?
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