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An online profile is just a gauge, and possibly not even a great one at that. I was on a dating site again recently but recognized pretty fast I was squandering my time, and still not over my last relationship. I am just done. It is challenging though once you have been combusted to not be excessively skeptical or judgemental. You don't need to start off with a negative mindet that every man is lying until he proves you wrong, but you do desire to be alert and self aware. The worst thing you can do if you already have self-esteem and relationship issues will be to foray into internet dating. TERRIBLE IDEA. I learned the hard way.
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