I tell all my single girlfriends to give online dating a try. Why not. Backpage escorts in Mcarthur Falls? I say, what's the worst that could happen? You set up a profile, pick some cute pictures, write something witty concerning the things that you adore (Beyonce, Hillary Clinton, Battlestar Galactica), list some books you like, then sit back, kick your feet up, and wait for the messages to roll in. Your inbox will fill with notes from 19-year olds in the 'burbs, 40-somethings who discover your preference in music refreshing," addled morons writing id fck u," and a few of age-appropriate, fine-looking men who can string some sentences together and enjoy to cook. With those, you may send several messages back and forth before he encourages you for a drink. You'll put on some mascara, drop out into the snow, meet a stranger, and after an hour of slightly stilted dialogue, he'll grab the check. You'll attempt to split it, but he will pay, and you would stand to re-wrap yourself against the icy wind. You will part ways, and you will probably, almost definitely, begin again the next day with another Hey there..." message from the following challenger.
You might think online dating would create some much-needed fairness" between the sexes. In the sphere of hetero courtship, tradition still reigns supreme. The Internet could possibly be the great democratizer, the excellent playing field-leveler. After all, we each have just the 500-word text boxes and crappy jpegs and clever (not too intelligent) user names to show for ourselves. Anyone can message anyone about anything. Maybe in this environment where we are safely sequestered behind displays, we can get past some of the lingering gender-established rules" that dominate the How to Find a Man" playbooks of yore. Maybe instead we can learn to handle each other as equal players of an extremely silly game that we all secretly take quite seriously. Would not that be fine?
But it appears quite clear to me that we're not there yet. I'm partly to blame, and also you probably are too. I'm a feminist, sex-positive 21st century woman whose photographs contain me modeling in a Rosie the Riveter Halloween costume. I write about gender on the Internet for crying out loud! But every day, when I log into the dating site of my choice, I play the passive part, the receiver of attention, the awaiter of messages. I proceed to my inbox and see who wants to speak to me and then I choose to whom I'll respond. Occasionally I send a thanks but no thanks" to especially pleasant messages, but generally I am so overwhelmed by the new things to read and the brand new picks in front of me that I dismiss those nice guys too. Essentially, I behave like an entitled jerk who is able to pull puppet strings and make OkCupid dance for me however I please.
This isn't the behavior I would expect of a feminist, sex-positive 21st century lady. It's not behavior I'm especially proud of either. Why do not I write messages first? Why don't I reach out to the dudes with the comical handles and great taste in books, the ones who post graphics with goofy faces and like tacos nearly as much as I enjoy tacos? Why do I not reply politely to every message, even the ones I'm not interested in? Why do I alternate between playing the damsel and also the playing the demanding entitled ahole? Since it's only so easy.
Ugh. I'm embarrassed to have written that. I wish the signs pointed to something different, something egalitarian and contemporary, but when I get real with my own online dating M.., it is the truth. I've sent messages to men before, sure, but the ratio is modest. Ten to one? Twenty to one? Once in a blue moon? I do not have to, and so I don't make myself go through the frightful exercise of asking for thought and maybe being rejected or dismissed. Why would I place myself through the rollercoaster of the drafting, the editing, the sending, the waiting, the expecting, the checking, and the sighing in disappointment when the fact of my gender (and let us be real; that's actually all it's) means the focus comes to me? This isn't how I want this work, but I condone it with my inaction.
Which now brings us to choice/course #3 - online dating. Some consider this the last frontier before calling it quits on the dating arena, while others chant it upward as the Holy Grail for finding the love which makes your crotch tremble. Ok, Holy Grail is a ginormous stretch, but there are those in the dating world that swear that online dating gives them the finest variety of options, while affording them anonymity and having the ability to go at a pace they discover rather than being blindsided at a dinner party with the tried and oh so fake, "I'm so glad you're both here. I have been dying to introduce the two of you!" Yeah right! That dinner party, happenstance meeting, was orchestrated so well it deserves a Tony Award. Any who...shall we move on?
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