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An online profile is merely a gauge, and possibly not even an excellent one at that. I was on a dating site again recently but recognized rather fast I was squandering my time, and still not over my last relationship. I'm just done. It's difficult though once you've been combusted to not be too skeptical or judgemental. You don't need to start off with a negative mindet that every guy is lying until he proves you wrong, but you do desire to be alert and self-aware. The worst thing you could do if you already have self esteem and relationship problems would be to foray into online dating. AWFUL IDEA. I learned the hard way.
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