I tell all my single girlfriends to give online dating a try. Why not. Backpage escorts in Silver Star Mountain? I say, what's the worst that could happen? You set up a profile, decide some cute photographs, write something witty about the things that you adore (Beyonce, Hillary Clinton, Battlestar Galactica), list some books you enjoy, and then sit back, kick your feet up, and wait for the messages to roll in. Your inbox will fill with notes from 19-year olds in the 'burbs, 40-somethings who discover your taste in music refreshing," addled fools writing id fck u," and also a handful of age-appropriate, fine-looking guys who are able to string some sentences together and like to cook. With those, you'll send several messages back and forth before he encourages you for a drink. You will put on some mascara, drop outside into the snow, meet a stranger, and following an hour of somewhat stilted conversation, he'll catch the check. You may try and divide it, but he will pay, and you would stand to re-wrap yourself against the frigid wind. You will part ways, and you'll probably, almost certainly, begin again the next day with another Hey there..." message from the following competition.
You might think online dating would create some much-needed equity" between the sexes. In the realm of hetero courtship, custom still rules supreme. The Net may be the great democratizer, the excellent playing field-leveler. After all, we each have just the 500-word text boxes and crappy jpegs and adroit (not so intelligent) user names to show for ourselves. Anyone can message anyone about anything. Maybe in this environment where we are safely sequestered behind screens, we can get past a number of the lingering sex-established rules" that dominate the How to Find a Man" playbooks of yore. Perhaps instead we can learn to treat each other as equal players of a very silly game that we all secretly take quite seriously. Wouldn't that be nice?
But it seems quite clear to me that we are not there yet. I'm partially to blame, and you also probably are too. I am a feminist, sex-positive 21st century woman whose photographs comprise me modeling in a Rosie the Riveter Halloween costume. I write about sex online for crying out loud! But every day, when I log into the dating site of my choice, I play the passive function, the receiver of attention, the awaiter of messages. I proceed to my inbox and see who wants to speak to me and then I choose to whom I'll react. Sometimes I send a thanks but no thanks" to particularly pleasant messages, but usually I'm so overwhelmed by the new things to read and the brand new selections in front of me that I discount those nice guys also. Fundamentally, I act like an entitled jerk who will pull puppet strings and make OkCupid dance for me however I please.
This is not the behaviour I would expect of a feminist, sex-positive 21st century woman. It's not conduct I'm particularly proud of either. Why don't I write messages first? Why don't I reach out to the guys with the comical handles and good taste in novels, the ones who post pictures with goofy faces and like tacos almost as much as I enjoy tacos? Why do I not respond politely to each message, even the ones I am not interested in? Why do I alternate between playing the damsel and the playing the demanding entitled ahole? Since it's just so simple.
Ugh. I am embarrassed to have written that. I wish the evidence pointed to something else, something egalitarian and contemporary, but when I get real with my own online dating M.., it's the truth. I have sent messages to men before, sure, but the ratio is small. Ten to one? Twenty to one? Once in a blue moon? I really don't have to, and so I do not make myself go through the terrifying exercise of asking for thought and possibly being rejected or dismissed. Why would I place myself through the rollercoaster of the drafting, the editing, the sending, the waiting, the trusting, the checking, and the sighing in disappointment when the fact of my sex (and let us be real; that's actually all it's) means the focus comes to me? This really is not how I want this work, but I condone it with my inaction.
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