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As word travels down the small town grapevine of former classmates' engagements and weddings and babies, I am not intimidated from these mainstream markers of "successful adulthood." I deleted my OkCupid and Tinder accounts and I do not have any interest in trying out any other websites. I'm not saying that all Black women should entirely give up on internet dating. For me, the alternative is more about preserving my mental, emotional and psychological health. Why should I go online to read some guy hiding behind a computer spew the same garbage that I hear in real life?

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The obvious question is why so few men are interested in dating women their very own age. It is not as if middle-aged women are equally obsessed with younger men. Though many women in their 30s and 40s report occasional contacts from much-younger men ("cougar-trolling," as one friend calls it), the OKCupid data indicates that women are much more interested in dating guys their own age. In the attempt to prove that they can still pull younger women, middle-aged men are those who are leaving their peers "sexually imperceptible."

Media critic Jennifer Pozner points out that element of the problem is the premature aging of mature women in Hollywood. Take Fireflies in the Garden, the 2008 movie in which 43-year-old Julia Roberts plays the mother of 34 year-old Ryan Reynolds. Backpage Escorts Near Me Oona River British Columbia. Or have a look at the late lamentable reality show Age of Love, which featured a grotesque competition between "kittens" in their 20s and "cougars" in their 40s. As Pozner wrote in her book Reality Bites Back , "The kittens hang out in their apartment hula-hooping in bikinis, while the cougars sew needlepoint, read, and do the laundry (because that's what wornout old crones do.)" Combine the media's de-sexualization of women over 40 with the never-ending party of May-December celebrity couplings, as well as the sign to men is that the validation they crave can only come from younger women.

The reasons elderly guys chase younger women have less to do with sex and everything to do with a profound desire to assure ourselves that we have still got "it." "It" is not just physical attractiveness; "it" is the entire manly bundle of youth, vitality, and, above all else, chance. It's not that women our own age are much less attractive, it's that they lack the culturally-established power to assure our vulnerable, aging egos that we are still hot and hip and filled with potential. Inspiring want in women young enough to be our daughters becomes the most effective of all anti-aging treatments, particularly when we can showcase our much younger dates to our peers. The well-known little red sports car shows only the size of our bank account; attracting a woman hardly out of her teens (or, if we are in our fifties, barely out of her twenties) validates the lasting power of our youthful allure.

Mature women are motivated to fight what one called "the slow slide into sexual invisibility" not only with cosmetics, just with the realistic approval of their own aging. For a lot of women, what ages right along with them is the sort of guy to whom they are attracted. As Amy, 43, place it, "I do not mind that most guys in their 20s or 30s don't flirt with me anymore. They're not what I am looking for anyway." Her sentiments jive with the OK Cupid data that demonstrates that most women over 35 want to date men who are their same age. But that same data suggests that men fight the same "slow slide" with frantic denial, a denial that manifests itself in a compulsive need to pursue women appreciably younger than themselves, all the while pleading to be seen as atypical for their age.

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