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I finished setting up my profile, used a photograph of my buddy for the profile pic with her permission, and said I was interested in Long term dating/short term dating and was good to go. I believed I would check on it in about 24 hours. But before I might even close the tab another message was received. It was another man who looked fine inquiring how I was doing and I messaged him back staying as impartial and as uninterested as possible without being mean. I was going to leave again, but I was kind of interested now, so I waited another minute, and sure enough, a third message popped up (also I believe it is a good point to say that my buddy would be the first to say she's a pretty average looking girl). I messaged him back, but before I really could send, I'd gotten a response from the very first man, so I needed to do that, then a reply from the 2nd guy. So fine, folks are interested in going out with me. Then I got another message that started with a line that while not completely vulgar, kind of came off a little peculiar. I ignored it and went back to send the message to man three now. Before I could send it, I got a followup message from Mr.4 which was needlessly sexual in nature. I continued to ignore him and completed. I then began to have some small talk with some guys (remember this is like minute 20 of having the profile upward) and all the dialogs kind of get odd. One of many guys becomes super aggressive saying he's competitive and he'll treat me right, the other is asking for my phone number telling me he is lying in bed and the dialog (without me steering it) is turning increasingly sexual in nature though I tell him I am not comfortable by it. Afterward I got the NoStringsAtttached messages, with numerous guys sending me messages asking me to see them cam, or meeting up with them within the hour, or speak with them on the phone or cyber. I'd say no and they normally did not take it too well.
At first I believed it was fun, I thought it was bizarre but maybe I'd mess with them or something and freak them out and tell them I was a guy or something, but as more and more messages came (either answers or new ones I had about 10 different guys message me within 2 hours) the nature of them continued to get more and more irritating. Guys were full on spamming my inbox with multiple messages before I really could respond to even one asking why I was not responding and what was wrong. Guys would become hostile when I told them I was not interested in NSA sex, or guys that had started normal and pleasant fast turned the conversation into something explicitly sexual in nature. Seemingly nice dudes in quite esteemed careers requesting to hook up in 24 hours and sending them naked pics of myself despite multiple times telling them that I did not want to.
"I came away believing that women have it so much harder than men do in regards to that type of stuff," OKCThrowaway22221 writes, wrapping up his experience. Backpage Escorts Near Me Murdale British Columbia. Again, he barely made it two fucking hours. A man who was likely used to "boys being boys"(or men being men or whatever), could not manage the type of messages that women get on a daily and even hourly basis. That is food for thought about the women who have been out there, dating on the internet for months or even years. If this is what he born during a short two-hour session---well, only envision.
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