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An online profile is only a gauge, and perhaps not even a great one at that. I was on a dating site again lately but realized rather quickly I was squandering my time, and still not over my last relationship. I'm just done. It is difficult though once you've been combusted to not be overly skeptical or judgemental. You do not need to start off with a negative mindet that every guy is lying until he proves you wrong, but you do desire to be attentive and self aware. The worst thing you can do if you already have self esteem and relationship problems is to foray into online dating. AWFUL IDEA. I learned the hard way.
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