One more thing. Backpage escorts near me Ksan. I'd like to ask all my middle aged online dating male and female compatriots a party favor. Please, let us rid our profiles of these overused phrases once and for all: glass-half-full, lusty, play-free, and easygoing. And these, let's omit these too: "I look 10 years younger than I am," "I hate talking about myself, but..." and all derivatives of "my pals/mother/ex/kids tell me that..I am a glass-half-full optimist, who is easy going and looks 10 years younger than I am." I believe that if we can all really agree to clean up our profiles then maybe, just perhaps, we can find some common ground and get back to the company of falling in love (or at least having fun trying).
I feel like I am aging out" of online dating. I've discovered after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the reply I get on has dropped to nearly nothing. It's as though going from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some sort of death knell for a dating life. I begin contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself. The possible matches the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look in the age-range that those guys want, (generally 35-50) I often move past them, knowing I can not compete with women in their desired range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years old than me! In other words, intentionally sends me matches that are probably not realistic for me to pursue. When I've emailed a number of those men, I never hear back. I'm guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and probably read no further. Even if I'm within their desired range, I still don't get much of a response. I assume the reason for this is they can get younger women to respond to them, so why would they go for me when they've a chance with the 45 year-old model of me? If their first wife was their age, like a school honey or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer version, so to speak. Our culture encourages this. It is frustrating, as well as depressing and more than a little humiliating. It's the built in folly of on-line sites: you are merely defined by your actual age, in bold type right next to your user name.
I get what you are saying. When my marriage fell apart a year ago people attempted to assure me that I was a grab. And I still thing I should be - am tall, trim, look young for 48, run my own successful firm, know just how to dance, am a community leader with environmental education and in my profession, lecture at university, write, from an exotic area (Alaska). As a result I am quite active so online dating looked like the answer. But in fact in six I can count on one hand the number of women who have written back and no actual dates. Backpage Escorts Near Me Kung British Columbia. I decided women in my date range and attractiveness range. Just to check I wrote to fairly elderly women and less attractive than myself. Nothing. Got on Tinder and swiped virtually every woman. Attempted all types of graphics. Nothing. while I talk to my female friends they say they are inundated. The only dates I've had, 2, were from old buddies who both told me they'd been fantasising about me for years but then they left it at that and rarely return my calls. At Meetups women seem interested but they don't answer. Just do not realize this, it's as if they expect me to pursue them and I am unwilling to do that because the two times I did that when my marriage was souring forever alienated good pals. Really out to sea on all of this - so much has changed since I was last dating 26 years past.
Kathleen, I am an older man and many women on line in my age group make out they are not interested in the younger guys. But of course they are. It's only that all the younger men approaching elderly women are mostly, looking for what they consider to be the quickest method to get easy sex. They simply show interest in guys their very own age when the supply of younger guys dries up, or the men begin to lose interest in them. it is insulting to me. And that's the reason why I am not interested in the women, my age who approach me. Backpage Escorts nearby Ksan British Columbia.
Men over 45 do have more alternatives regarding dating. However there are certain ways around this. First, a girl has to expressly say what she offers a guy (that he wants) in the context of dating and relationships. I have read thousands of female profiles (35-55 years old) and almost none of them really say what they offer a man. Generally, itis a list of demands and preferences. This really isn't great marketing. A lady must be able to answer the question What do I offer a man that he wants?" If she doesn't understand, (or is offended by the question) she is not ready for dating.
Debby, you're talking rot as far as I'm concerned. I am 62 and let me tell you, I Have had nights" with women 20-30 years younger and they do not even ask what I do for a job. Certainly the long term prospects are not good with a considerably younger woman. But in my experience a whole lot of much younger women go for me. They say I'm a silver fox and fine lol - Sorry, but as much as you'd like to believe it is about a cynical money grab, I must inform you we mature men, like some elderly women entice the opposite sex. Unfortunately, lots of people do not entice the opposite sex. nature is cruel.
I 've the same observation. Andrew. For awhile I was amazed at women's profiles with their shopping list of demands (don't contact me if...you must be blah blah blah....""with no statement of what they have to offer. Certainly a guy can gather much about a female from reading her profile, and women are often so inundated with responses from poor matches that they become exasperated and start to set bounds; yet for me this language indicates an attitude of entitlement and self-absorption, and suggests perhaps an assumption that she's the more desirable one in the deal. Maybe women are accustomed to being pursued. A more thoughtful mature woman will comprehend that relationships aren't just about her and her needs. Clearly men can frequently act the same way, merely wanting sex. I believe the more profound truth is the fact that most folks only blunder unconsciously into relationships, compelled by their ill comprehended desires, knowing neither themselves or what they want from a relationship.
The funny thing is both me and my current bf ONLY dated younger for the most part when online dating. He said it was vanity on his part and I told him I did it'cause I could (get away with it). But asI've stated numerous times on this site, I also was only competent to date younger (my usual preference except for my present same-age bf) cause I lied about my age. Shaved off quite a number of years too girls! lol I was born in 1953, but wouldput 1960 or1961 on my profile. What helped is I 've a killer figure (thin, but curves, 36D) and pretty face thanks to years of intermittant plastic surgery (but nothing below the waistline til lately (coolsculpting which I recommend). Myplastic surgeon's nurse says I project youthfulness and look, on a good day, in my 40s still. So, I've had a clear edge. I guess I am one of the fortunate ones, but I believe it is a combo of my personality, a kind of God glow"/spiritualityand appears. Men have ever been attracted to me in person. Big time. Occasionally it was flattering and sometimes a problem frankly.
I have decided if my bf and I break up (God FORBID as I'm really in love with him) I won't return to online dating but will give celibacy a shot. Relationship after, say, 58 or 59 is NOT worth the attempt imo. Maybe 'cause eventually you are stuck with all these bitter, old, paranoid,hypocritical boomer men. I don't know....Am acceptable with my isolation now. Crave it really (bf and I 've a long distance relationship but just 72 miles). Backpage Escorts nearest Ksan. We are only apart about 4 nights before reunited though. And intend to dwell together at some point in the future. So my dating experience can be best summed up by the old standard Just in Time". Backpage Escorts Near Me Kragmont British Columbia. Listen to the Streisand variation circa 1965.