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I finished setting up my profile, used a photo of my buddy for the profile pic with her permission, and said I was interested in Long term dating/short term dating and was great to go. I believed I would check on it in about 24 hours. But before I could even shut the tablature another message was received. It was another guy who appeared fine inquiring how I was doing and I messaged him back staying as impartial and as uninterested as possible without being mean. I was about to leave again, but I was kind of curious now, so I waited another minute, and sure enough, a third message popped up (also I believe this is an excellent point to say that my friend would be the first to say she's a pretty typical looking girl). I messaged him back, but before I could send, I'd gotten a reply from the first guy, so I needed to do that, then a answer from the next guy. So good, folks are interested in going out with me. Afterward I got another message that opened with a line that while not totally vulgar, kind of came off a little odd. I dismissed it and went back to send the message to man three now. Before I really could send it, I got a followup message from Mr.4 which was needlessly sexual in nature. I continued to dismiss him and concluded. I then started to have some small-talk with some men (recall this is like minute 20 of having the profile up) and all the dialogs kind of get weird. Among the men becomes super aggressive saying he is competitive and he will treat me right, the other is asking for my phone number telling me he is lying in bed and also the dialog (without me steering it) is turning increasingly sexual in nature though I tell him I am not comfortable with it. Then I got the NoStringsAtttached messages, with numerous men sending me messages asking me to see them cam, or meeting up with them within the hour, or speak to them on the phone or cyber. I'd say no and they usually did not take it too well.
At first I thought it was fun, I thought it was weird but perhaps I would mess with them or something and freak them out and tell them I was a man or something, but as increasingly more messages came (either replies or new ones I 'd about 10 different guys message me within 2 hours) the nature of them continued to get increasingly more irritating. Guys were full-on spamming my inbox with numerous messages before I really could respond to even one asking why I was not answering and what was incorrect. Men would become hostile when I told them I wasn't interested in NSA sex, or guys that had started ordinary and pleasant quickly turned the conversation into something explicitly sexual in nature. Seemingly fine men in rather esteemed careers requesting to hook up in 24 hours and sending them naked pics of myself despite multiple times telling them that I didn't want to.
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