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An online profile is only a gauge, and possibly not even an excellent one at that. I was on a dating site again lately but recognized rather quickly I was squandering my time, and still not over my last relationship. I'm just done. It's challenging though once you've been burned to not be overly skeptical or judgemental. You don't need to start off with a negative mindet that every man is lying until he proves you wrong, but you do want to be attentive and self-aware. The worst thing you can do if you already have self esteem and relationship problems would be to foray into internet dating. BAD IDEA. I learned the hard way.
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