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I completed setting up my profile, used a photograph of my friend for the profile pic with her permission, and said I was interested in Long term dating/short term dating and was great to really go. I believed I'd check on it in about 24 hours. But before I could even close the tab another message was received. It was another guy who looked nice inquiring how I was doing and I messaged him back remaining as neutral and as uninterested as possible without being mean. I was about to leave again, but I was kind of interested now, so I waited another minute, and sure enough, a third message popped up (also I feel it is a good point to say that my buddy would be the first to say she is a pretty typical looking girl). I messaged him back, but before I really could send, I had gotten a response from the first guy, so I had to do that, then a answer from the next guy. So fine, folks are interested in going out with me. Then I got another message that started with a line that while not totally vulgar, kind of came off a little unexpected. I dismissed it and went back to send the message to individual three now. Before I really could send it, I got a followup message from Mr.4 which was needlessly sexual in nature. I continued to dismiss him and concluded. Then I started to have some small talk with some men (recall this is like minute 20 of having the profile upward) and all the dialogues kind of get bizarre. One of many men becomes super aggressive saying he's competitive and he will treat me right, the other is asking for my phone number telling me he is lying in bed and the conversation (without me steering it) is turning increasingly sexual in nature though I tell him I'm not comfortable by it. Afterward I got the NoStringsAtttached messages, with numerous guys sending me messages asking me to watch them cam, or meeting up with them within the hour, or speak with them on the phone or cyber. I'd say no and they usually did not take it too well.
At first I thought it was fun, I thought it was weird but perhaps I'd mess with them or something and freak them out and tell them I was a man or something, but as a growing number of messages came (either replies or new ones I had about 10 different guys message me within 2 hours) the nature of them continued to get more and more irritating. Guys were full-on spamming my inbox with multiple messages before I really could answer to even one asking why I wasn't answering and what was erroneous. Men would become hostile when I told them I was not interested in NSA sex, or men that had began normal and fine immediately turned the conversation into something explicitly sexual in nature. Seemingly fine men in quite esteemed careers asking to hook up in 24 hours and sending them naked pics of myself despite multiple times telling them that I didn't need to.
"I came away thinking that women have it so much harder than guys do in regards to that type of stuff," OKCThrowaway22221 writes, wrapping up his encounter. Backpage Escorts Near Me Chute Lake British Columbia. Again, he barely made it two fucking hours. A guy who was likely used to "boys being boys"(or dudes being men or whatever), couldn't manage the type of messages that women get on a daily and even hourly basis. That is food for thought about the women who have been out there, dating online for months or even years. If that's what he endured during a brief two-hour session---well, just envision.
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