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An online profile is just a gauge, and possibly not even a great one at that. I was on a dating site again recently but understood fairly quickly I was squandering my time, and still not over my last relationship. I'm just done. It is hard though once you have been combusted to not be overly cynical or judgemental. You don't need to start off with a negative mindet that every man is lying until he proves you wrong, but you do want to be alert and self aware. The worst thing you could do if you already have self-esteem and relationship dilemmas will be to foray into online dating. AWFUL IDEA. I learned the hard way.
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