I tell all my single girlfriends to give online dating a try. Why not. Backpage escorts near Pembridge? I say, what is the worst that could happen? You set up a profile, decide some cute pictures, write something witty in regards to the things that you adore (Beyonce, Hillary Clinton, Battlestar Galactica), list some books you like, then sit back, kick your feet up, and wait for the messages to roll in. Your inbox will fill with notes from 19-year-olds in the 'burbs, 40-somethings who discover your taste in music refreshing," addled fools writing id fck u," and a handful of age-appropriate, fine-looking men who are able to string some sentences together and enjoy to cook. With those, you will send a few messages back and forth before he invites you for a drink. You will put on some mascara, plunge outside into the snow, meet a stranger, and after an hour of slightly stilted dialogue, he will grab the check. You may try and divide it, however he'll pay, and you'll stand to re-wrap yourself against the arctic wind. You will part ways, and you'll probably, almost definitely, begin again the next day with another Hey there..." message from the next challenger.
You might think online dating would create some much-needed equity" between the genders. In the realm of hetero courtship, convention still rules supreme. The Internet could be the great democratizer, the superb playing field-leveler. After all, we each have only the 500-word text boxes and crappy jpegs and clever (not too clever) user names to show for ourselves. Anyone can message anyone about anything. Maybe in this environment where we are safely sequestered behind displays, we can get past a number of the lingering sex-established rules" that dominate the How to Catch a Man" playbooks of yore. Perhaps instead we can learn to handle each other as equal players of an extremely silly game that we all secretly take quite seriously. Would not that be fine?
But it appears quite clear to me that we are not there yet. I'm partially to blame, and also you probably are too. I am a feminist, sex-positive 21st century woman whose photographs include me posing in a Rosie the Riveter Halloween costume. I write about gender on the Internet for crying out loud! But every day, when I log into the dating site of my choice, I play the passive role, the receiver of attention, the awaiter of messages. I proceed to my inbox and see who needs to talk to me and then I choose to whom I Will respond. Sometimes I send a thanks but no thanks" to especially pleasant messages, but generally I am so overwhelmed by the brand new things to read and the brand new picks in front of me that I ignore those nice guys too. Basically, I behave like an entitled jerk who can pull puppet strings and make OkCupid dancing for me however I please.
This really isn't the behaviour I would expect of a feminist, sex-positive 21st century woman. It is not behavior I am especially proud of either. Why do not I write messages first? Why don't I reach out to the guys with the humorous handles and great taste in books, the ones who post pictures with goofy faces and like tacos almost as much as I like tacos? Why do I not respond politely to every message, even the ones I'm not interested in? Why do I switch between playing the damsel as well as the playing the demanding entitled ahole? Because it is only so simple.
Ugh. I am embarrassed to have written that. I wish the evidence pointed to something different, something egalitarian and modern, but when I get real with my own online dating M.., it is the truth. I have sent messages to guys before, certainly, but the ratio is small. Ten to one? Twenty to one? Once in a blue moon? I really don't have to, and so I do not make myself go through the scary exercise of asking for thought and maybe being rejected or dismissed. Why would I put myself through the rollercoaster of the drafting, the editing, the sending, the waiting, the trusting, the checking account, and the sighing in disappointment when the fact of my sex (and let's be real; that's actually all it is) means the attention comes to me? This really isn't how I want this work, but I condone it with my inaction.
Which now brings us to option/route #3 - online dating. Some consider this the last frontier before calling it quits on the dating scene, while others chant it upwards as the Holy Grail for locating the love that makes your groin tremble. Acceptable, Holy Grail is a ginormous expanse, however there are those in the dating world that swear that online dating gives them the best assortment of possibilities, while affording them anonymity and having the ability to go at a pace they discover rather than being blindsided at a dinner party with the tried and oh so fake, "I'm so happy you are both here. I have been dying to introduce the two of you!" Yeah right! That dinner party, happenstance assembly, was orchestrated so well it deserves a Tony Award. Any who...shall we move on?
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