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Regrettably, like many other women, I received a slew of sexually indecent messages from the second I created my profile, somepopping upward before I Had had the opportunity to upload any pictures. When I did add graphics, I got a onslaught of ill typed one liners ranging from, "Wut are you?" and "What type of Black and what kind of Asian are you?" to "Where r u originally from?" After he had opened using a brief "hello," one 40-something gentleman explained that I needed to begin visiting the gym. There were a few who'd adamantly make strategies, just to stand me up.

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As word goes down the small town grapevine of former classmates' betrothals and weddings and babies, I'm not intimidated by these mainstream markers of "successful adulthood." I deleted my OkCupid and Tinder accounts and I do not have any interest in trying out any other sites. I'm not saying that all Black women should entirely give up on online dating. For me, the alternative is more about preserving my mental, emotional and psychological health. Why should I go on-line to read some guy hiding behind a computer spew the same garbage that I hear in the real world?

I got a cheeky anonymous email lately: "I'd like to commission an article on the circumstances of sexually undetectable middle aged men. I believed you'd be the perfect man to do it." As an insult, it was a moderately clever thing to say to a 44-year-old writer. But it reminded me of the reality that maturing men do experience anxiety about our own decreasing attractiveness. It's hardly news to point out that men are more worried about their bodies than in the past, but the panic of visibly aging is no longer restricted to women, if it ever was.

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This is not merely view. It was borne out in the now-notorious results of the 2010 OK Cupid survey , which found that in the world of online dating, guys seemed almost universally interested in pursuing appreciably younger women. Men's desired age range for potential matches was dramatically skewed against their chronological peers. A typical 42 year-old-guy, for example, would be prepared to date a woman as young as 27 (15 years younger than himself) but no older than 45 (only three years older.) And as OkCupid discovered, guys consistently dedicated nearly all of their focus to women at the very youngest ending of their stated range --- and often messaged female members who were nicely beneath that.

The obvious question is why so few guys are interested in dating women their own age. Backpage escorts nearest Lloyds Hill Alberta. It is not as if middle aged women are equally obsessed with younger guys. Though many women in their 30s and 40s report occasional contacts from much-younger men ("cougar-trolling," as one friend calls it), the OKCupid data indicates that women are much more interested in dating guys their own age. In the effort to demonstrate that they can still pull younger women, middle-aged men really are the ones who are rendering their peers "sexually undetectable."

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Media critic Jennifer Pozner points out that portion of the problem is the premature aging of old women in Hollywood. Take Fireflies in the Garden, the 2008 movie in which 43-year old Julia Roberts plays the mom of 34 year old Ryan Reynolds. Or consider the late lamentable reality show Age of Love, which featured a grotesque competition between "kittens" in their 20s and "cougars" in their 40s. As Pozner composed in her book Reality Bites Back , "The kittens hang out in their apartment hula-hooping in bikinis, while the cougars sew needlepoint, read, and do the laundry (because that's what worn-out old crones do.)" Combine the media's de sexualization of women over 40 with the never ending celebration of May-December celebrity couplings, and the signal to guys is the fact that the validation they crave can only come from younger women.

The reasons older men pursue younger women have less to do with sex and everything to do with a profound urge to reassure ourselves that we've still got "it." "It" isn't just physical attractiveness; "it" is the entire manly bundle of youth, vitality, and, above all else, chance. It's not that women our own age are less attractive, it is that they lack the culturally-based power to reassure our vulnerable, aging egos that we are still hot and hip and filled with possibility. Inspiring want in women young enough to be our daughters becomes the most effective of all anti-aging treatments, especially when we can show off our much younger dates to our peers. The famous little red sports car shows only the size of our bank account; pulling a girl just out of her teens (or, if we're in our fifties, just out of her twenties) validates the lasting power of our youthful appeal.

Elderly women are motivated to fight what one called "the slow glide into sexual invisibility" not only with makeup, but with the realistic approval of their particular aging. For many women, what ages right along with them is the sort of guy to whom they're brought. As Amy, 43, set it, "I don't mind that most men in their 20s or 30s do not flirt with me anymore. They're not what I'm looking for anyhow." Her opinions jive together with the OK Cupid data that reveals that most women over 35 would like to date guys who are their same age. But that same data implies that guys fight the same "slow slide" with frenetic denial, a denial that manifests itself in a compulsive need to pursue women appreciably younger than themselves, all of the while pleading to be seen as atypical for their age.

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