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An online profile is just a gauge, and possibly not even an excellent one at that. I was on a dating site again lately but realized quite fast I was wasting my time, and still not over my last relationship. I'm just done. It's difficult though once you've been combusted to not be excessively cynical or judgemental. You do not want to start off with a negative mindet that every guy is lying until he proves you wrong, but you do desire to be alert and self-aware. The worst thing you can do if you already have self-esteem and relationship issues will be to foray into internet dating. BAD IDEA. I learned the hard way.
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