I tell all my single girlfriends to give online dating a try. Why not. Backpage escorts in Elspeth? I say, what's the worst that could happen? You set up a profile, decide some cute photos, write something witty in regards to the things that you just adore (Beyonce, Hillary Clinton, Battlestar Galactica), list some books you like, then sit back, kick your feet up, and wait for the messages to roll in. Your inbox will fill with notes from 19-year olds in the 'burbs, 40-somethings who find your preference in music refreshing," addled morons writing id fck u," plus a handful of age-appropriate, fine-looking guys who are able to string some sentences together and enjoy to cook. With those, you'll send a few messages back and forth before he encourages you for a drink. You will put on some mascara, dive outside into the snow, meet a stranger, and following an hour of somewhat stilted conversation, he will grab the check. You will try and split it, but he will pay, and you will stand to re-wrap yourself against the icy wind. You'll part ways, and you will probably, almost surely, start again the following day with another Hey there..." message from the next contender.
You might think online dating would create some much-needed equity" between the sexes. In the sphere of hetero courtship, tradition still rules supreme. The Web may be the great democratizer, the superb playing field-leveler. After all, we each have only the 500-word text boxes and crappy jpegs and smart (not too clever) user names to show for ourselves. Anyone can message anyone about anything. Maybe in this environment where we are safely sequestered behind displays, we can get past a number of the lingering gender-established rules" that predominate the How to Catch a Man" playbooks of yore. Perhaps instead we can learn to treat each other as equal players of a very silly game that we all secretly take quite seriously. Would not that be nice?
But it appears quite clear to me that we're not there yet. I'm partially to blame, and you also probably are too. I am a feminist, sex-positive 21st century lady whose pictures comprise me modeling in a Rosie the Riveter Halloween costume. I write about sex on the Internet for crying out loud! But every day, when I log into the dating site of my choice, I play the passive part, the receiver of attention, the awaiter of messages. I proceed to my inbox and see who needs to speak to me and then I decide to whom I'll respond. Sometimes I send a thanks but no thanks" to especially sweet messages, but usually I am so overwhelmed by the brand new things to read and the brand new choices in front of me that I blow off those nice guys too. Essentially, I act like an entitled jerk who can pull puppet strings and make OkCupid dance for me however I please.
This really is not the behavior I'd expect of a feminist, sex-positive 21st century woman. It's not behaviour I'm particularly proud of either. Why don't I write messages first? Why don't I reach out to the guys with the humorous handles and good taste in books, the ones who post pictures with goofy faces and like tacos nearly as much as I like tacos? Why do I not reply politely to every message, even the ones I am not interested in? Why do I alternate between playing the damsel and the playing the demanding entitled ahole? Since it is only so simple.
Ugh. I'm embarrassed to have written that. I wish the signs pointed to something different, something egalitarian and modern, but when I get real with my own online dating M.., it's the truth. I've sent messages to guys before, sure, but the ratio is modest. Ten to one? Twenty to one? Once in a blue moon? I really don't have to, and so I do not make myself go through the terrifying exercise of asking for consideration and perhaps being rejected or dismissed. Why would I put myself through the rollercoaster of the drafting, the editing, the sending, the waiting, the expecting, the checking, and the sighing in disappointment when the fact of my gender (and let's be real; that's really all it's) means the attention comes to me? This really isn't how I want this work, but I condone it with my inaction.
Which now brings us to alternative/route #3 - online dating. Some consider this the last frontier before calling it quits on the dating landscape, while others chant it up as the Holy Grail for locating the love that makes your crotch tremble. Fine, Holy Grail is a ginormous expanse, but there are those in the dating world that swear that online dating gives them the finest variety of options, while affording them anonymity and having the ability to proceed at a pace they ascertain rather than being blindsided at a dinner party with the attempted and oh so fake, "I'm so happy you're both here. I've been dying to introduce the two of you!" Yeah right! That dinner party, happenstance assembly, was orchestrated so well it deserves a Tony Award. Any who...shall we move on?
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